Comments on: Feel http://theyomen.com/2006/11/10/feel/ Reflection on ancient and contemporary worship and literature. Thu, 24 Dec 2009 02:15:25 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Stephen http://theyomen.com/2006/11/10/feel/comment-page-1/#comment-77 Stephen Mon, 20 Nov 2006 00:22:37 +0000 http://theyomen.com/?p=18#comment-77 MAN LOVE. Funny that people automatically see gay gay GAY. Guys are so funny. We all want a braveheart experience - bonding with other guys over a common purpose - living together dying together - dying for each other, but we think we can get it by talking about sports and burping. True love takes intimacy. Intimacy is scary as hell. Want a fellowship? (LOR) Want a brotherhood? Share everything and then pick up the pieces together. MAN LOVE.

Funny that people automatically see gay gay GAY.
Guys are so funny. We all want a braveheart experience – bonding with other guys over a common purpose – living together dying together – dying for each other, but we think we can get it by talking about sports and burping. True love takes intimacy. Intimacy is scary as hell. Want a fellowship? (LOR) Want a brotherhood? Share everything and then pick up the pieces together.

]]> By: Adam B. http://theyomen.com/2006/11/10/feel/comment-page-1/#comment-65 Adam B. Thu, 16 Nov 2006 08:05:40 +0000 http://theyomen.com/?p=18#comment-65 touché touché

]]> By: LORNNIE http://theyomen.com/2006/11/10/feel/comment-page-1/#comment-59 LORNNIE Mon, 13 Nov 2006 23:40:34 +0000 http://theyomen.com/?p=18#comment-59 But I don't like any of my friends... But I don’t like any of my friends…

]]> By: Kameron http://theyomen.com/2006/11/10/feel/comment-page-1/#comment-58 Kameron Sat, 11 Nov 2006 22:13:40 +0000 http://theyomen.com/?p=18#comment-58 Wonderful thoughts! Thanks for saying this. We really need all the help we can get in redefining masculinity. Most of us only know that masculinity isn't <I>anything feminine</i>. So we instinctively stay away from relational sensitivity, expression of emotions, intimacy with others, revealing weakness, etc. -- anything that might be considered "girlie" or get us ridiculed. But as you pointed out, sharing our life (who we are, what we feel, etc.) with others is what it means to be truly alive. Generally speaking, we are <i>starved for affection</i> -- the only models of this obvious goodness have been overly sexualized. It's no wonder pornography is such an epic problem! (I've also heard a former homosexual explain his battle with homosexuality deep down was really a craving for peer acceptance.) Perhaps if we practiced developing these kinds of affectionate friendships with others, we (as a generation of men) would be less inclined to grasp for the affection we need from a private fantasy of lust or some other distortion of sexuality. Wonderful thoughts! Thanks for saying this. We really need all the help we can get in redefining masculinity. Most of us only know that masculinity isn’t anything feminine. So we instinctively stay away from relational sensitivity, expression of emotions, intimacy with others, revealing weakness, etc. — anything that might be considered “girlie” or get us ridiculed. But as you pointed out, sharing our life (who we are, what we feel, etc.) with others is what it means to be truly alive.

Generally speaking, we are starved for affection — the only models of this obvious goodness have been overly sexualized. It’s no wonder pornography is such an epic problem! (I’ve also heard a former homosexual explain his battle with homosexuality deep down was really a craving for peer acceptance.) Perhaps if we practiced developing these kinds of affectionate friendships with others, we (as a generation of men) would be less inclined to grasp for the affection we need from a private fantasy of lust or some other distortion of sexuality.

]]> By: aaron http://theyomen.com/2006/11/10/feel/comment-page-1/#comment-57 aaron Sat, 11 Nov 2006 01:08:40 +0000 http://theyomen.com/?p=18#comment-57 Wow Adam, that was a great. I agree with the fact that men are pretty bad at loving others and at being loved. In our defense I think it is fair to say that until you have experienced that type of relationship and friendship with someone else even in some small way it's really hard to understand just what they're missing out on. Also there's the whole being "cool" factor of not being vulnerable with others. Man we can be dumb sometimes. Having said that and being in friendships with so many amazing men I could never go back to living the superficial life. I don't want that, there's nothing there for me or for the other person. Wow Adam, that was a great. I agree with the fact that men are pretty bad at loving others and at being loved. In our defense I think it is fair to say that until you have experienced that type of relationship and friendship with someone else even in some small way it’s really hard to understand just what they’re missing out on. Also there’s the whole being “cool” factor of not being vulnerable with others.

Man we can be dumb sometimes.

Having said that and being in friendships with so many amazing men I could never go back to living the superficial life. I don’t want that, there’s nothing there for me or for the other person.

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